Saturday, May 5, 2012
Dating Rule #STUPID!
Maybe I just don't get it, but it seems REALLY dumb.
If there is one thing that teaches us how a person reacts to situations, it is a break-up. Evil people will show their evilness in moments like that. They may have been OK all along, but back them up against the wall, their true colors finally show. In this instance, if the relationship was OK and nothing awful was revealed, WHY THE HECK NOT go out? Just because someone you KNOW was involved?
You have experience with how they reacted being with someone, maybe you even know their background – both good and bad! You don't have to sit through the interview process, have that awkward first couple conversations or dates, or even wonder if they are in the witness protection program!
It seems better than a friend fixing you up with someone they know. To me, they are saying “I wouldn't date him/her but she's good enough for YOU”. (Married or unsingle people excluded of course!)
We ALL have a history and a past. Some of it is known, some not. For each of us, the level we are comfortable with is different. The reality is, the more we know, the better decision can be made. If you thought that he/she was a creep or worse, you would probably want to scar them for life, but what if they were two good people who just didn't work out? What if no one did anything wrong but they realized they just weren't “forever”? What if?
Seems dating is hard enough without excluding MORE people! Bad timing shouldn't be a screening tool!