It's NOT Enough to Ask “What If?”....

One of the biggest changes in my life happened when I was very young. I decided I was tired of dealing with the question "What If?".

In the past, if I wouldn't do something and then regret my inaction, I would torture myself because I made no effort. I would try and explain to myself that it wasn't meant to be, it shouldn't be so hard, or it wouldn't have worked anyway. I would think that life isn't fair and that everyone else had it better than me. Makes me sick just thinking about it.

Some of those situations involved females, some were about not playing sports, some were for just not joining in or finishing what I started. When I finally changed my ways, it was very liberating. To try-and fail, is so much better than not trying at all.

Amazing things started happening.. I found that, when I gave a concerted effort, not only did it answer the question "What If?", it also made me feel better about myself. I didn't feel the jealousy I felt before. I was okay looking in the mirror and comfortable with my capabilities and limitations.

I finally got a girlfriend and then another and another (that's a different story!).... I started bowling more seriously and was better than average.... I traveled to places I only dreamed of...

With my new-found confidence, it allowed me to strive for more at work as well. Eventually I got into the insurance business and found that sales fit me, met hundreds of memorable people, and enjoyed my life far more than I would have ever expected.

I've had many opportunities, and although I'm not keeping score, I know there's many, many more failures then there are successes. If that sounds bad it shouldn't. I don't mind failing as long as I tried my best.

None of this would have happened if I only thought, "What If?" and did nothing.....